Lil annoyances

Ok so we all have them. These lil annoyances that just are irritating. Such as being told : " you just need to let it go"
Or " its part of being together" or " I really care about you but this will make you happy." " if you just learned then they will know when they have gone too far." " unless this happens..... Then its not that bad ..... They are just ...."

  Well here's the thing when is enough , enough ? Listen to these long enough and you tell yourself them too. Its a vicious cycle. One hard to stop .... Why ?

1. Ppl think you're overreacting
2. Its not that bad you've been through worse so you should just deal with it.
3. Women vs men ( we as women just need to deal and get over it cuz guys well they are just wired differently, or they didn't know they were hurting us so its ok. Or were married or in a relationship and have kids and should be doing what's best for them)
4. Others know we struggle but we should just get over it cuz were lying or its not that bad. (Anxiety , ptsd, bipolar, depression etc. )
5. Because we have to be strong
6. You just don't talk about due to others not understanding so you just find a way to cope and hide it. (Addiction etc)

Its just annoying and hear the judgements and the criticism day in and day out even when its not about you. Yet you stick up for others or don't say anything cuz its best to avoid .... Pretty soon you wonder what you're even doing ? How you let it get this far or bad? Why you can't stop it? For every step you take forward it seems your taking steps back...
Nothing ever seems good enough for any one and you are left once again to pick up the pieces staying strong , surviving , trying not to fall victim to a trap you've fell victim too so many times.
When will enough be enough ?