This comes from the heart and has been on my mind quite a bit lately. If you come from a long line of abuse, if you don't come from a long line of abuse but find yourself in an abusive situation of any kind, if you're trying to wrap your mind "how you let it happen, or get this far." " what's wrong with you ?" " how can any one love you?, or they must be the only person that does ." " No one will love you like they do or be there for you. " " or they are sorry and it will never happen again" " or you asked for it , or you make them angry or mad or make them do this and if you would just listen or get it through your head " .... " or if you take it, then your family or spouse or s/o or kids won't have to" and whatever you or others tell you then this is for you . Understanding abuse is difficult for the many people who go through it and it hard and difficult to understand how other people could be ...
( this song was suppose to be at the bottom but, it wouldn't allow it) S eriously, we can have many paths in life but there are two I want to address: 1. The path we are born into ...... Here is what I mean by this we are born into families, then sometimes traded off or pushed away for ~ a habit ~ a distraction ~ something or some one better ~ a lifestyle ~ decision that we don't understand what ever the reason for choices that our parents choose to make, grandparents, aunts uncles, ppl we are suppose to trust, ppl that are suppose to protect us, love us for who we are, be there for us. Soon we lose our childhood innocence some at a sooner age than some, and we come to realize that these ppl don't always have our best interest at heart, They are only human! they make mistakes, They are learning. sometimes they can't protect us when we need it the most. They can make choices that impact our lives forever and then wonder later why the relationship is strai...
I never thought I would settle. There is different kinds of settling. You can settle in * relationships * marriage * friendships * jobs * careers etc. I'm talking about settling with careers. You see based on how I grew up and with , I know how messed up. But I also vowed I would never settle. I always go after my dreams and opportunities that way I never live with regrets. But here I am settling in my career or job and not the one I want. Why ? Some of the typical reasons people settle* they don't think they can do better. * they are scared , afraid of failure , being alone * they think its what they deserve . * they think if they put up with it then no else will have to. ( in the case of relationships) sometimes kids are involved, it can make it harder. Well settling in. Career or job is for some of the same reasons and I didn't realize that I was settling . sometimes its easier to settle , because you know what to expect and you know what will happen. It a means to surv...
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