This comes from the heart and has been on my mind quite a bit lately. If you come from a long line of abuse, if you don't come from a long line of abuse but find yourself in an abusive situation of any kind, if you're trying to wrap your mind "how you let it happen, or get this far." " what's wrong with you ?" " how can any one love you?, or they must be the only person that does ." " No one will love you like they do or be there for you. " " or they are sorry and it will never happen again" " or you asked for it , or you make them angry or mad or make them do this and if you would just listen or get it through your head " .... " or if you take it, then your family or spouse or s/o or kids won't have to" and whatever you or others tell you then this is for you . Understanding abuse is difficult for the many people who go through it and it hard and difficult to understand how other people could be ...
When choices are made and we are put in situations that are uncomfortable , or in sticky situation through our own choices or choices of other.... We end up thinking or dissecting every choice or decision that got us there their so it doesn't happen again. Yet some how we end up there again, and again and again. Its a never ending cycle. The results may be different just a little every time but we still end up there. So we dissect and we try to not end up there yet it comes up and we can never truly heal even if we do truly heal we are left with the scars the memories the hurt and they never go away. We could be bettering our lives , and some thing said or incident in our lives will bring it all back up again. And we are left to deal with it. Or if we do talk about it , its we should be over it , ppl don't wanna hear it , ppl change give them a chance, don't talk about cuz others get uncomfortable, somehow it end up our fault , if we don't make these choices or t...
Recently I had the privilege of talking with some one dear to my but they are toxic and it breaks my heart. Toxic ppl like to be around toxic ppl but it isn't good for them. It only hinders and enables them. I grew up in a toxic situation. I have left that life and no longer surround myself with toxic ppl. Some ppl you still need contact with for whatever the reason. Some of the ppl that are still toxic and that I'm still in contact with are family. This person that I still have contact with well we had a conversation the other day and I told them it wasn't good that they surround them with other toxic ppl. Toxic ppl deserve happiness too, and they do not allow themselves that whatever the excuse or reason. I left the toxic life behind a long time ago and I am happier for it.
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